" relationships "

marecki said:

Ok, so I was having a discussion with my mate, about relationships and bs... I've figured something, I want/seek a relationship/gf but for some reason I lack the motivation for it... just doesnt seem to be there at all. I can talk to women, have no problem talking to them, but as soon as I'm interested I dont see a point and dont ask the woman out; I'm not nervous or afraid, just dont see a gain out of it

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COP RUNNER said:

I JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY THEY HAVE TO BE SO HARD SOMETIMES & SO INCONSISTENT ! .. :confused2:

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ghostntheshell said:

Being friends is very important too - because when the lust comes down to earthly levels - you really need to be friends with the lady for it to work.

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ghostntheshell said:

I have had a few different ladies in my years.

Each relationship lasting approximately 3 years.

What did I learn? Pick one with faults you can live with.

Being friends is very important too - because when the lust comes down to earthly levels - you really need to be friends with the lady for it to work

Life isn't a fairly tale. Looks don't last forever.

I'm not saying settle - that's not the answer - just make sure that you actually like more about the person than the looks.

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VERY WELL SAID ! .. unk:

jules said:

i will have to add my 2 cents like coffee break and give a womans point of view here. I've been married once before and it ended because of the both of us. I was married very young and i will admit there were issues with him that i really didn't like but i thought i could change him. We were only married for 3 yrs before i left. I couldn't handle it any more and learned why the saying is true "you can't change a person". I learned from that and got older. I'm sure there are plenty of you that laughing at me due to my age but i've got plenty of experience in relationships and have become a hard a$$ from the last serious boyfriend. You men have complained about women and being all crazy. I will have to agree we have our times. Mine was in my marriage but i'll use the excuse of inexperience and being too young. I'm gonna gripe about men now. The last bf was selfish and i bent over backwards for him (in more than one way haha) and we lasted for 2 yrs. We decided to move away from our familys to start our lives together 6 months before the end. I got a job first and moved w/o him waiting for him to get a job and come up. During that time he started acting a little distant but assured me that everything was fine and he wanted to marry me. He never told his family but we went ring shopping. I bought his ring that was freaking $900 and i showed him what i wanted thinking he would get it when i wasn't around. He asked to hang out w/ my girlfriend one night while we were still living in different states and i trusted them and had no problem. I found out that he confessed to her he didn't want to marry me and he liked her as well as another woman! He was trying hard to get with her that night but after wards he still continued to tell me that he loved me and wanted us to get married. I learned after i kicked him to the curb that he was using me because i was his sugar momma. When he found someone else that was prettier and would support his a$$ he got hateful and refused to talk to me and give me back my things. We all have horror stories about the opposite sex but we learn from them. The majority of the time we get thick skins and that can be good for those that are pushovers like myself but detrimental for others that think the opposite sex are the worst things on earth. I have high priorities now and if the guy doesn't met them they don't get another chance. Luckily i've been with david to know that him farting every 20 mins (is this a guy thing?!?!) will continue for the rest of his life and i've accepted it...as long as they don't stink lol. His "flaws" can be tolerated and i understand i can't change him. So far we are doing good but we work on listening to each others needs. I don't read self help books because i think they are a waste of time but i accidentally stumbled across a book and highly recommend it to good or hurting relationships and especially singles. Its called "his needs, her needs" by willard harley. It's extremely insightful for all sides. Communication is key and be honest!

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